Now that you've forgiven
everyone -- you need not condone them.
Forgiving and accepting
is different from forgetting.
We're just removing the
EMOTIONAL parts of our memories and then reinserting the memory without
pain.
Your memories are best
stored like scenes you saw on a TV show.
You can remember a murder
on a TV show and have no fear, resentment, or anger stored with the memory.
Do the same with your
life memories.
Strip your memories of
their emotions.
Buddhism teaches us that
emotions have no intelligence, they are instinctive reactions.
Just as we must control
our desire to eat or urinate, we must control our passions and fears.
If you're complaining
in your mind, "IT'S TOO HARD TO CONTROL MY EMOTIONS," you should
reconsider your acting career.
Each acting role requires
a different emotional personality that you must program and imitate. This may require you to get so excited or sad that chemicals will be released accidentally as if it were really happening to you. This must be shut off or acting can be unhealthy. Or, if you really want the performance, with emotions, be able to act through the scene just short of 'really crying' and save those tears for the closeup or final take.
I am not opposed to 'method acting' where you pull out that resentment for Santa who didn't get you a bicycle... but you need to have those emotions cataloged for easy access so you can relive them without apprehension or getting stuck in them.
If you can't imitate
yourself WITHOUT EMOTIONS -- you are not a very good actor.
Buddha Zhen
Patriarch, shaolinZEN.org
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